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Memorial created 10-1-2008 by
Steen Brydum
Kirsten Brydum
January 22 1983 - September 27 2008

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09-28-2016 12:26 PM -- By: Farmor,  From:  

Dear "lille" Kirsten, I miss you so often and will never forget you. Love from your Farmor. ♥️

09-27-2016 8:57 AM -- By: Mckenzy ,  From:  

Time can ease the sting but can never answer the loss of a dear loved one. My sincerest condolences for your loss. Death is so unnaturally, especially realized by those who are left behind to greive. Through similar trials I found comfort in the words at John 5:28,29, a promise that death will soon be done away with and those taken captive by it will live again. May you too find hope and peace for the future.

09-27-2016 8:40 AM -- By: Michelle,  From:  

Sorry for your loss. May God give you comfort today and strength for tomorrow. (2Corinthians 1:3,4 John 5:28,29)

09-24-2016 11:54 AM -- By: Momma,  From: Oceano  

Here we are again my baby. The pain does not lessen and in fact it got worse this September. I'm heading to Dolores Park to reconnect with your friends. Maybe you can join us. 💗💚💝

08-25-2016 4:33 PM -- By: Graham Thiel ,  From:  

Thinking of you today . . . Listening to Sean Hayes Soul Shaker: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2C8kd12aL3k&index=9&list=PLmNBJ8YfZey0 CSvVDtat8-1VtVc_hP68J

03-07-2016 10:38 PM -- By: Nadine Roemer,  From: California  

01-22-2016 2:37 PM -- By: Anja Marie Brydum Pellegrino,  From: CA  

Dear one,

You would have been 33 today. That means you've essentially been gone for 1/3 of the time we actually got to keep you. But we don't really get to keep anyone, or anything. Even when I could touch you, even when you were tangible, you were not mine to keep. But the idea of you burns bright and brighter than 33 candles on a cake; the idea of you is what keeps so many of us keeping on; the idea is mine and ours to keep.

My baby is almost 9 months old. You'll never meet Vega, and that is rough, because she would have loved you (and she will, in her own way), and you would have adored her. She is feisty and strong and has so many opinions and is so very, very busy. You two would have gotten into trouble together. People remember you for your goodness, and kindness, and warm-heartedness (all true), but I'll always remember you as the best kind of trouble. That is mine to keep.

Erika and I were just talking about the night you said to us, "sometimes I make up secrets, just so I can have them." How many of those little woven stories did we know and how many will we never learn? The answer is only yours to keep. And that is fitting. But it certainly makes for a good story, doesn't it? The story is ours to keep.

I know you're part and parcel of the everything now. I don't suffer the way I used to, even though I still feel a dull ache in my chest, because it's true, life keeps moving forward. But I do miss you and it's still unfair that there is a reason to miss you. The day you were born, though, is a reason to celebrate, not a reason to mourn. And so just like every birthday we've celebrated without you, we feel grateful for those we had with you.

Kirsten: I loved you. I love you. I will always love you.

01-22-2016 1:55 AM -- By: Momma,  From: Oceano  

Miss you baby. Can't imagine what you would look like at 33. Just wish with all my might that I could.

01-22-2016 1:05 AM -- By: Joe Tracy,  From: Friend of the family ♡  

09-28-2015 1:10 AM -- By: Maureen McCafferty Jones,  From: RI/Indiana  

7 years the tears still there You and Liam are not along you both have family with you in Heaven!

09-27-2015 1:00 PM -- By: Momma,  From: Oceano CA  

Here we are again my baby, another year older and still no answers, still missing the hell out of you. Miss you so much.

09-27-2015 4:52 AM -- By: ,  From:  

You were born one week before my son. Gone too soon dear girl. Taken by the careless, violent act of a stranger. The stars shine a little less brightly on the angelversary.

01-22-2015 7:36 PM -- By: Farmor,  From: Seal Beach, CA  

Dear Kirsten Today would have been your 32nd birthday, hope you are celebrating with your Farfar. We will miss you tonight, when we get together, but I will always remember all the good times we had together. With love from your Farmor.

01-22-2015 4:47 PM -- By: Anja,  From: Santa Ana, CA  

You would have been 32 (32!) today, babyK. You were, and still are, my very first forever friend. Not a day goes by that I don't still miss you, but life is beautiful. It really is. I wish you could meet this little dancing bean in my belly, but she will most certainly hear all about you. I will teach her that her auntie Kirsten is everywhere, and in every thing. I will teach her that you've returned where we all come from. I know you will help her live bravely and without fear. I love you. Happy birthday.

01-22-2015 4:37 PM -- By: Your Father,  From: Seal Beach, CA  

Dear Kirsten, I think of you every day, but on your Birthday, every second. Family dinner tonight and friends are gathering in San Francisco. Everlasting love from Far.

01-22-2015 11:13 AM -- By: Momma,  From: Oceano CA  

Missing you terribly my love! This and every hour of every day.

01-01-2015 9:12 PM -- By: Mom,  From: Oceano CA  

Missing you still just as much, my baby. But this new year brings less pain, just bittersweet memories. Never forget.

10-03-2014 1:42 AM -- By: Rachel Mendoza,  From: Grover Beach  

So sorry for the loss of this beautiful and wonderful young woman. Warm hugs to you at this anniversary time.

09-27-2014 3:14 AM -- By: Momma,  From: Oceano  

Missing you my baby just as intensely as ever. Keep sending me energy.

08-20-2014 5:49 PM -- By: dayna,  From: blankenship  

I am so sorry for your loss Mamie of this beautiful soul. May God make her a special angel who continues to watch over family and those she loved

05-06-2014 1:41 AM -- By: Momma,  From: Grover Beach CA  

Missing you as intensely as ever my baby. Most days I cannot even bring myself to look at your pictures on my wall. Maybe they are what inspire me to get up and out every day.

01-25-2014 2:28 AM -- By: ,  From:  

K-Strong is my ultra-ally. We ride together. No aggression can stand between us. Nothing can stop us. We keep it moving. All together now. And Collective Autonomy rises and spreads. Spiritual Anarchy rises and spreads. Fault lines shift, comets crash. Strangle-holds lift and this aggression does not stand. K-Strong stands. We stand side by side like Twin Peaks. Like Joshua Trees.

K. and A. Always.

We ride.

'Love this life. Live it for the rest of us. In good company over here, on the true path.'

01-24-2014 1:28 AM -- By: Momma,  From: Grover Beach CA  

K-Strong, Alex calls you. And your spirit is. I'm back from my trek to Dolores Park my love and it was a good visit. Seeing so many of your still-strong friends was good for my soul, and God Bless John for his stoic resolve. I am blessed to have him in my life still. And I will continue this trek for as long as I can. Missing you more than ever,

01-22-2014 2:00 PM -- By: Anja Marie Brydum Pellegrino,  From: California  

Dear Kirsten,

Today would have been your thirty-first birthday.

I do not miss you any more, or any less, than I do every other day of the year. But your birthday provides a concrete point in time to think about -- How would you be celebrating? What would you look like at 31? Where would you be living? Who would be by your side? What would have changed?

I know you would still be equal parts grace and silliness. The sound of your laugh, I think that would be the same. I think your eyes would be more tired than I remember, but still bright and full of love. I know you would not be any taller. I know you would not be any less kind. I know your shoes would have more holes, your head a few more strands of grey, but I think your step would be just as light as it ever was. I think there are some people who you would have kept close to you and others with whom you would have already parted ways. I believe you would still love as fiercely as you ever did, if not more so. I believe you'd have a million ideas, bubbling and brewing just below the surface. And I know you would still be my secret-keeper, my first forever-friend, and a bursting ball of energy, too massive to be contained by such a tiny frame.

I still speak with you, in the quiet, vast spaces that exist between sounds and thoughts and things. I can still sense you, a part of everything, in the moments when I worry that my memories of you are starting to fade. It was a privilege to be a part of each other, and though I know I'll never really stop being angry to have to think of you in the past tense, the weight is sometimes eased by the distraction of being.

So I keep on moving, one foot in front of the other, on your birthday and every other day. And in these particular moments, I exist with the thought that today, TODAY is a celebration of the day you entered the world, the day you became real, and that's a beautiful thing on which to focus. It's been thirty-one years since I met you, and that's an awfully large part of my nearly thirty-two years on solid ground. Today, I feel blessed to have met you, babyK, because I cannot imagine my life without you in it (and you're still in it, if only in such very different ways). It would be nice to squeeze your hand and tell you so.

Happy birthday. I love you. Para siempre. Anja

12-03-2013 6:01 PM -- By: Marina Convertino,  From: Italy  

During a travel on Mission District in San Francisco, I met a murales dedicated to Kirsten. I didn't known her, but I was very sad to read her story. She smiled by the wall and seems observe the people walking in the street. ciao Kirsten, possano le tue idee viaggiare lontano e illuminare le menti addormentate.

10-22-2013 1:32 AM -- By: Marcia Alter,  From: Arroyo Grande  

What a beautiful person. Her love will continue to ripple out to others and to others and to others.

10-01-2013 2:39 AM -- By: Far,  From: Seal Beach  

Dearest Kirsten, September 30, five years ago, the darkest day. The day we got the devastating news about your murder. I think about you every day, but this one is the saddest. Love from Far.

10-01-2013 12:49 AM -- By: Patti,  From: Charm City  

I'm very sorry for your family's loss. After briefing a news channel today and assuming another homicide in the City of New Orleans ( a wonderful city I might add that has been nothing but plagued by corruption and death)... Young lives lost way too soon. It was after reading the article on NOLA that I realized this young woman was murdered five years ago and the pain of family and friends questions gone unanswered- for five years. Heart wrenching to say the very least.

After reading- admitting no knowledge of her passion- didn't even know of these causes, if anything I gained knowledge and awe of how very bright she was and at such a young age.

Repulsed by the lack of respect for human life today in a world gone " I don't even know the words". This young woman and many others just wanted to bring peace, love, education , healthcare and charity to others. A sad story- but her story and her photos of fun loving & living life brought a smile to my face. Not ever knowing her- she would have wanted that.

How proud your family must be. Thoughts & prayers. Peace be with you.

09-28-2013 12:38 AM -- By: Trisha,  From: Colorado  

Thinking about you today, Kirsten. And about your Mom, Dad and Erika. Such a wonderful soul - you had such an impact on everyone around you.

09-28-2013 12:07 AM -- By: Maureen McCafferty Jones,  From: Rhode Island/Indiana  

Five years and still feels like yesterday; one can NEVER understand the meaning of the things that happen. They say GOD has his reasons, May Kirsten and Liam meet in heaven and pray that they are are having the time of their lives there. You and Liam are always in my thoughts and prays of everyday and deeply missed. Love your Cousin Maureen


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